Did you know that God created mankind for the purpose of establishing relationships? Genesis 2:18 says that in the beginning, He created Adam, and decided it was not good for him to be alone. He created Eve, and said she was help that was “meet” for him, meaning she was someone suitable (or proper) for him. Why did Adam need help? He needed help to develop out of self-centeredness. With Eve in his life, God knew Adam would always be challenged to consider someone other than himself.
God established the institution of marriage between Adam and Eve for the purpose of eliminating their “aloneness.” We need companionship for reasons far greater than just satisfying a lonely heart. With Eve by his side, Adam was forced to fight his selfishness. By loving someone else, he would become a better man.
This does not apply only to married people. This applies to every relationship we will ever have as human beings, including our relationship with the Father Himself. Yes, He wants to have a relationship with us! We were designed for relationships. Relationships far exceed having fun times together with friends. God views relationships as covenants.
We all need to learn to establish covenant relationships. We need someone in our lives to help us develop. For example, single people need to establish covenant relationships to help them grow out of selfishness. All relationships are designed to help us mature in unconditional love—the God-kind of love.
God created us in His image; however, we can never totally be like Him with a self-centered mindset. God is love. Therefore His foundation for everything is love, not selfishness. Although it is good for us to love ourselves, it is not good to disregard everyone else in the process! Healthy self-love serves as the foundation for the love we distribute to others. And we cannot truly love ourselves and others without first receiving that God loves us with a relentless, unfailing, everlasting love.