Consider these questions:
Does Your Prospective Mate Respect You?
Are your opinions respected? Men, are you dating someone who wants to make all the decisions and doesn’t respect your opinions at all? Is this person controlling and very needy, and unwilling to listen to anything you have to say? Ladies, do you have a man who will not even open the door for you, but he will open the door for others? Are you dating a man who will not pay attention to your opinions or feelings? If your potential mate doesn’t respect you before you are married, he or she most likely won’t respect you after you are married.
Are You Consulted in Decision Making?
Do not marry someone who will not consult you before making important decisions. If you do, once you are married, your mate will feel entitled to make major decisions such as purchasing a car, taking a trip, or making plans without first discussing them with you.
Is There a Mutual Submission Between the Two of You?
The Bible says in Ephesians 5:21 to submit ourselves—one to the other—in the fear of the Lord. That means a husband must submit himself to his wife, by obeying what God tells him to do as a husband, and a wife must submit herself to her husband, by obeying what God tells her. Marriage is about mutual submission.
Is He or She Truly Open to Your Input?
Are you in a relationship with someone who really does not want to hear what you have to say? You do not want to spend your life with a partner who makes you feel dumb or treats you as if you have nothing to contribute.
How Does Your Prospective Mate Treat Other People?
Have you seen this person interact with others? How does he or she act around other people? It is easy to pretend when the two of you are out alone, but you must observe your date’s treatment of others. How does he or she act in a group setting or with family and friends? How does he or she treat your family and friends?
Do You Know What He or She Struggles with in His or Her Personal Life?
You must date long enough to find out what this person struggles with, even if you have to ask. Don’t be afraid to put it out there. This is so important because you do not want to end up in a marriage with someone who is struggling with something that you were not aware of. For instance, suppose he or she has issues with pornography, homosexuality, or drug addiction. These are things you need to know long before you say “I do.”
Be on the lookout for part three of this life changing teaching on Choosing a mate God’s way vs. the world’s way. I believe that God is raising up singles who are going to be equipped to have success in every area of their lives!
God bless you!
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